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no one ever said that loving another person meant to stop loving someone else. you’re focusing too much on the aspect of falling out of love when it might not ever necessarily happen, when you feel deeply for someone even if it turns out awful and rips you apart, it’s suppose to stay with you. you learn from it, even little bit of pain you grow from, even if it feels like it’s doing the opposite.
what i’ve learned with things like this is the more i *try* and get over a person the less it works, and the more time i spent regarding my thoughts and efforts elsewhere, it happened on it’s own. don’t spend your time revolving around the thought if it will help you get over someone or not, there isn’t a set schedule and path to follow that will show you a little light at the end that says “congratulations, you’re over them!”. the process for everyone is different, but for me i’ve faired much better seeing it as no sort of a process at all.
it’s just natural, it’s life. we gain love and then we gain pain, and it’s all one in the same. it’s a continuous cycle and it is never ending. we heal and then we are torn apart again, only to heal again, and again and again. you will never be as broken as you could be or as full of love as you will ever be. a lot of people see breakups in the aspect of “nothing lasts forever”, and you should see it the same way for pain, too.
what i suggest for you is to stop trying to make it all go away right this instant and explore it, write it, get it out of you, learn who you are when you’re in pain so that you better know who you are when you’re not. “getting over” someone to me doesn’t mean forgetting them, or ceasing to love them or never waking up with the singlemost thought in your mind being how they’re doing. it doesn’t matter if you’re suppose to think about them or not, forget people that tell you “just stop thinking about him”, because you won’t, and you don’t need to. ignoring and suppressing the parting will do nothing but make your healing an even longer, more stressful process. and it’s not necessary.
i know it’s a hopeless feeling, and clearly it is easier to say all of this when i’m sitting in the body that isn’t feeling the pit in my chest the way that you are. but know that i too have been in your position, my heart has felt the same type of pain and i’m okay, i AM able to say all of this because i HAVE been hurt to that extent.
maybe it’s the masochistic nature of someone who expresses by writing, or some creative outlet, but pain is such a beautiful fucking thing if you can channel it, and it’s been the most natural way for me to relieve it. acknowledge it, don’t be so quick to get rid of it, because it won’t happen that way. feel what you are feeling in this very present moment and feel it for all that it’s worth. it’s a dark place i know it is, but there’s so much you can find in there if you’re just gentle with yourself. someday it will hit you that you’re okay, and you belong to yourself again. and then everything will start all over, but it’s wonderful.
i am not *glorifying* pain, but there’s no reason to be afraid of it. you’re going to be okay lil bug, your hearts going to blossom so much from this and i am happy for you thinking of the very moment you realize you have all of that strength and independence within you 100% of the time.
are u regina george
MK well seeing as i have been spending such a large amount of time alone since my last relationship which ended in march, i think you’re completely misguided, i’ve liked one guy since then which im sry i didnt realize i wasn’t able to do!!! trust me i have more independence than i’ve ever had, no need to worry about my life, u got urs. (and p.s. wanting someone to just give lil kisses to my legs has nothing to do with independence)
My alone feels so good, I’ll only have you if you’re sweeter than my solitude.- Warsan Shire
im sitting here drinking a beer and doing hours worth of homework/studying and i just want someone to come and lay on my lap and place little kisses on my thighs while i sit in my undies and stuff my brain
i’m back into running every day regularly regardless of the heat or the time or how lazy i want to be and i’ve been signing up for all different types of yoga classes and learning to open and channel my chakras and i swear to god, if you aren’t invested in spirituality and yoga practices yet, it will truly change your life if you let it. never been so positive, so open to everything i’m experiencing. the mind is a beautiful thing when you learn to use it up to your potential.